It amazes me what people will say. Do they not have any kind of filter? Children don’t have a filter and they say whatever is on their minds. Hearing children say the darnedest things doesn’t bother me, sometimes it can be cute. Seriously people, think about what you are saying and that other people have feelings.
One example is when I was living with my ex. I said I hadn’t heard from my girlfriend for awhile. His response was, “Why would she call you?”
I called him out on that, I said, “What do you mean?”
He replied, “Nothing.”
There is no reason to be that nasty.
I think I am becoming more like my mother! There was this time when a couple of women where my parents were volunteering had done something to my mother. She refused to have anything to do with them. It wasn’t the first time they had done something to her. They came to my father to see if he could do something. He told them there was nothing he could do. Later he told me that they had done three things to my mom on different occasions. My dad said “You know the saying in baseball? Three strikes and you are out! Well that is how it is with your mother. Do something once she is okay, two times she still is okay but three times, she will have nothing to do with you.”
I think it also depends on how people perceive you. I am quiet and listen to people, I won’t voice my opinion. I guess I’m just checking people out and don’t want to cause any waves. After awhile my true personality comes out. People are usually pretty surprised that they can’t control me or take advantage of me. I can only take it so long and then I will let the person have it.
There is one person who has been causing me grief lately. I worked with her and she was always nice. Then one day she started saying things about me. I was really taken aback but I put it aside. A few of us have been getting together for awhile but the last few weeks I’ve noticed a change in her. She dominates the conversation and will talk about things I have no interest in. It’s so much fun not being a part of the conversation, NOT!
I’ve had confrontation with people I work with, siblings and friends. I’ve had people say to inappropriate things to me about my children.
My son was diagnosed with Leukemia as a young child, here are a few things that were said.
1. My ex’s friends wife said, “You can’t have any more children because the next child will get cancer too.”
2. A neighbour had said she was going to visit my son in the hospital. He was home on a day pass, so I called to let her know. She said, “I would never go to see your son in the hospital.”
If her children were outside playing, sometimes I would go outside with my son. The next thing I knew she was bringing her kids inside. I’m sure she thought my son was contagious.
3. When my son was first in the hospital, I received a call. It’s was my girlfriend (we are no longer friends). She said, “I’ve been trying to get a hold of you.”
I told her I had just come from the hospital, that my son was diagnosed with Leukemia. She said, “Oh my god you are just so funny!”
I said, “I would never joke about a thing like that. I have to go now.”
She said, “Call me when you have time.”
I have not heard from her since that time.
4. My sister was over when my son was having his 4th birthday. She saw all his toys and said, “Oh Nancy!” She gave me such a condescending look. My child has cancer of course I’m going to spoil him. I felt such guilt he was so sick.
Time is much too short to be around people like that, my life on the acreage is quite fulfilling. I don’t need to go out visiting people who don’t appreciate me. I don’t care if you are my friends, family or social media friends, I won’t take any kind of bullshit.
If you don’t take the time to want to hear what I am doing and don’t want to be apart of my life so be it. People will come and go in all our lives. There is a reason for them being there but when it is time for them to move on let them go.
I could go on and on but my point is this, think about what you are saying or doing. We are not here to hurt each other. We should be helping each other in the best way possible.